How to talk to boys about misogyny
The government’s Women and Equalities Committee
- The government’s Women and Equalities Committee
recently emphasised the need to combat misogyny through work with young men and boys. - It is vitally important that we talk about misogyny with boys.
- Boys may feel shut out of the conversation, leaving them feeling blamed but unable to contribute to solutions.
- Here is some guidance on how to talk to boys about misogyny that may be helpful.
Approach the topic without judgment
- Perhaps you feel anger or disgust at the way girls at school may be made to feel by their male peers.
- But the first step in addressing this issue is to create dialogue – and this is unlikely to happen if boys feel judged.
Let boys say what they feel
- You could start by asking your child’s opinion on a particular issue, such as online misogyny influencers or sexual harassment at school.
- Let your son know that they are able to be honest and you will not judge them.
- But to truly get to the heart of the matter, boys need to feel that they do not have to stick to a social script and are able to say what they are really feeling.
Listen to their ideas
Young people are the experts in the world that they live in now. Your child may well know more than you do about how much pornography is shared between teens, what misogynistic influencers are saying, how sexual harassment happens online and what their peers’ views on gender are. They may also have good ideas about tackling misogyny. Make your conversation a discussion, not a lecture, and prepare to learn from them, too.
Masculinity and misogyny aren’t the same
- There is nothing wrong with a young man or boy identifying with this type of masculinity.
- We have to make this distinction and separate them when considering masculinity.
- As parents, we should approach these topics with compassion and an awareness that we are all in this together.